perhaps all along i was too selfish, wanting the best of both worlds without putting myself in the shoes of others and seeing things their way; perhaps all along i was too stubborn and self-centered i only saw the bad and failed to appreciate the good. it wld be convenient to blame it on human nature but i do think that there's some truth to it. more often than not, we tend to over-complicate matters when things aint that bad actually cos really, things aint that bad.
this is what you get when you think about the same issues repeatedly over the course of a few weeks. you realize that certain views and beliefs you've held on stubbornly in the past are actually unfounded and only blinded you from seeing other perspectives. so let's not be too quick to judge next time (even though it's much easier said than done!) and remain optimistic in trying situations :)